Case of the Ex

As I previously posted, my mom got divorced recently.  I'm not one to judge reactions to things like divorce and death -- there's too much happening to decide how someone else should handle it. However,  there are some things I know you're not supposed to do.

The divorce was not a pretty one. There were allegations of abuse and stalking and other generally terrifying behavior.

So you can imagine how disappointing/sad/weird/scary it was to hear that my mom was going to see her recently ex husband. Not only did she see him, she had him over to her house. While she was there. Alone.

There's always an excuse with my mom. Like, she knows her behavior warrants judgement so she just gets an excuse ready to say when you question it. This time? Well, clearly, her ex had to see their dogs.

It should be mentioned that over the years, said ex has threatened to 1. have the dogs put to sleep 2. take the dogs away.  It should also be mentioned that when I brought up the "you might not want the man you had a restraining order against in your house" she had another excuse: "well, he's already found my house online and has pictures of the inside without ever having been here." Um, not a red flag then? OK.  So, of course, it's only logicial that he would be in Minnesota on "business" and need to "visit the dogs."

I'm not sure if all of that is a euphemism for something else but I do know that it can be incredibly frustrating as her kid to watch her make terrible mistake after terrible mistake and act like she's the victim.

The ex hasn't been back to the house. But, it seems, he's now fallen ill (convenient but probably true: he's overweight, drinks and lives a stress-created life).  She's headed to florida soon to get her 1/2 of the furniture they agreed upon in the divorce. Here's to hoping he doesn't "visit the dogs" again.